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Offline DFragmentor

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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #40 on: September 18, 2007, 10:45:57 pm »
Yes my typical results of success.  :P Guys, just remember, women are complex. Dont try so hard. There is a saying, good things come to those who wait. You will usually find someone when you aren't looking. At NDK I was asked to go to the rave. I had no intention of going. But I did. I also ended up going with someone else... oops lol
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #41 on: September 19, 2007, 04:31:49 am »
Quote from: Nogardous on September 18, 2007, 09:21:52 pm
But right now the biggest problem is i have now clue how to break the into a converation. I was told just introduce your self, or start with a joke. Me, I just try to use something that they are doing as common ground.

Well right now your in a good place. You just left a pretty cool anime/gaming con this weekend full of peeps with common interest and now you're on a anime/gaming forum full of peeps with common interest. Just relax and chill its gonna happen when it happens. Yeah you're gonna get nervous cause nobody likes to get rejected or ignored and honestly if your intent is to just get a gf a/o hookup then your gonna have lots of them rejections before you meet a true connection. but again if your goal is to just talk with them and build up your female gender friend list then just stick to what you know best and dont try to out reach. i dont like soccer, so im not gonna try and meet someone and a Rapids game, but i do like hockey so yeah maybe at a AVs game.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #42 on: September 19, 2007, 08:38:38 am »
LuvChild, that sounds perfect.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #43 on: September 19, 2007, 10:39:30 am »
 :D thanx DFragmentor. you rok too. anyway to help my fellow otaku bretheren cause i think we all rock so if someone is having a prob i like to help whenever possible and i dont think i stand alone on that topic either i mean look at us right now. helpin people meet more people rox
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #44 on: September 19, 2007, 10:48:26 am »
Indeed. I am sure with time they will realize just as I did so long ago. It really isn't that hard.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #45 on: September 19, 2007, 11:07:01 am »
Tons of advise. That what all my friends say. Thanks for the advise.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #46 on: September 19, 2007, 02:55:05 pm »
Personally i have never been one for cheesy pickup lines, or hitting on girls with the intent to get laid right away. I guess I'm not that type of person. I generally am not a very outgoing person. I am pretty reserved, whether it be talking to either sex, it doesn't matter.  One thing that I have always done is simply talked to girls on a strictly platonic level. Not to say I don't get nervous, as that is just natural for me in any social situation. Also not to say I don't flirt from time to time, but thats usually with girls I already know and feel some attraction to (not to say their aren't exceptions from time to time). Usually once I hang out with a girl, talk to her, and establish some sort of connection, I may feel attracted to her on more than just a physical  level, and then I will pursue it further. With people in general there is a lot more than meets the eye, and with girls it seems to be a bit more than average (ladies you can take that as a compliment ;)). So its always rewarding to get to know the person on a deeper level before following the hormonal urgings, or thinking that the future of any interaction with the opposite sex is going to be romantic. In my experience that just usually leads to awkward situations, feelings of rejection, and the ruining of potentially rewarding friendships.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #47 on: September 19, 2007, 03:53:38 pm »
Quote from: madscientist on September 19, 2007, 02:55:05 pm
Personally i have never been one for cheesy pickup lines, or hitting on girls with the intent to get laid right away. I guess I'm not that type of person. I generally am not a very outgoing person. I am pretty reserved, whether it be talking to either sex, it doesn't matter.  One thing that I have always done is simply talked to girls on a strictly platonic level. Not to say I don't get nervous, as that is just natural for me in any social situation. Also not to say I don't flirt from time to time, but thats usually with girls I already know and feel some attraction to (not to say their aren't exceptions from time to time). Usually once I hang out with a girl, talk to her, and establish some sort of connection, I may feel attracted to her on more than just a physical  level, and then I will pursue it further. With people in general there is a lot more than meets the eye, and with girls it seems to be a bit more than average (ladies you can take that as a compliment ;)). So its always rewarding to get to know the person on a deeper level before following the hormonal urgings, or thinking that the future of any interaction with the opposite sex is going to be romantic. In my experience that just usually leads to awkward situations, feelings of rejection, and the ruining of potentially rewarding friendships.

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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #48 on: September 19, 2007, 03:58:30 pm »
SO the Evil psycho*cough* sorry mad scientist hit the nail on the head??
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #49 on: September 19, 2007, 04:13:25 pm »
Quote from: Nogardous on September 19, 2007, 03:58:30 pm
SO the Evil psycho*cough* sorry mad scientist hit the nail on the head??
Sweet! So can I add the title "psycho" to my list of characteristics? :P That would be a new one, LOL
Actually a few posts back you mentioned that you have a speech impediment that makes you apprehensive when talking to girls. To be honest, for most of my life I had a very bad stuttering problem. That caused me to have a phobia of social interaction. Especially when people would make fun of me when i simply just wanted to talk to them like a normal person would. I would feel two inches tall and it caused me to really retreat into a shell. But once I went through college and had to take a public speaking class, I had the chance to improve my speaking (it's still not perfect), but also to boost my confidence. At the time I hated the class because it was like torture for me, but from it I learned a lot and improved the way I think and communicate. While I don't know what your issue is, sometimes doing something like that helps build your confidence in your communication abilities and may help you overcome some apprehensions you may have.
And actually now, I do public speaking quite a bit and find it to be even easier than normal social interaction. I find that I am very clear, concise, and my thoughts are more organized when on stage, than even in normal conversation. But that boost in confidence has helped me out immensely, both with my self esteem and my communication abilities.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #50 on: September 19, 2007, 04:28:27 pm »
I took FFA(Future Farmers of America) We did alot of Public speaking every year. Except i just memerize key points and wing my speech in front of the class. Every year of the four years taking the class I would get an A because I would wing it where i would never look at my cheat cards. But muy speech impediment is cause by brain damage to the motor movements that are used for speech. Brain Damage cause from a birth defect of the heart(lack of O2 to the brain, if I cried I would Pass out). Heart surgery fixed the problems for the most part. Funny thing is I live a decade past what the doctor's said I would live. Yeah for Me.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #51 on: September 19, 2007, 04:35:05 pm »
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I think the content level is getting a bit on the mature side.  Be sure to remember that there are people of all ages on this forum.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #52 on: September 19, 2007, 04:39:18 pm »
Sorry my bad just wanted to throw in that joke my brother said
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #53 on: September 19, 2007, 04:40:36 pm »
No worries, when I was first coming here, I wasn't quite used to the environment myself, but it makes it a little more interesting using euphemisms and what-not.  Spices up the forum a bit.  I just thought I'd throw the warning in there, though.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #54 on: September 19, 2007, 05:49:17 pm »
also, I don't want to get all prissy, but I'm  not heterosexual , so that word is as funny to me as the N word is to African Americans . Which is to say, not much funny at all...
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #55 on: September 19, 2007, 05:52:39 pm »
Quote from: Motoko on September 19, 2007, 05:49:17 pm
also, I don't want to get all prissy, but I'm  not heterosexual , so that word is as funny to me as the N word is to African Americans . Which is to say, not much funny at all...

Yeah, we're dealing with all kinds of demographics here, so keep in mind that you may be offending some people with choice language as well.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #56 on: September 19, 2007, 06:47:11 pm »
Quote from: Pestilence on September 19, 2007, 05:52:39 pm
Yeah, we're dealing with all kinds of demographics here, so keep in mind that you may be offending some people with choice language as well.
Yes, well put Pestilence. I have to say this is one of the more mature boards I go on regularly. And thanks to the anonymity of the internet, I sometimes have to cringe at what people say on other boards.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #57 on: September 19, 2007, 10:00:25 pm »
I mod that post and took of that saying. Sorry if I offended anyone.
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #58 on: September 19, 2007, 10:42:45 pm »
no harm done. ^_^;;
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Re: How to talk to girls?
« Reply #59 on: September 20, 2007, 01:41:46 am »
Wemon mature faster than men and as a reslut they despise cocky pick up lines. You have to apeal to their respect and since of dignity. Catering to their inteligance and acknologing their beatury also helps alot. Like me, I used this line to score a totaly hot brain sugen whos also a part time super model.

Hey baby, hows about showing me some of your moon power latter on?
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