How to talk to girls?

[HeavenlyDevilGurl]

Why was this moved? This isn't exactly a deep discussion...*confused*

[Zarabadoo]

The actual subject of the panel is. I figured that is what the discussion was intended to lead up to.

[madscientist]

Note to self: Attend "How to talk to girls" panel next year.
It seems that panel is actually a good place to meet some cool girls. Gonna have to remember that for next year.

[toadstoolssecretluvchild]

I stayed a good hour and a half after that panel with a friend of mine talking to a couple of guys that attended. I have to say, I haven't had a good conversation like that with a person of the opposite sex in a while.

I REALLY wish I could find that guy again. *le sigh*

NDK bringing people together one otaku at a time 

[DFragmentor]

I was there. Pretty good panel. Although I did bump into a pretty naive women. Listen lady (if she is reading this) How many women have you dated? Thats what I thought. Don't discredit my experience with your lack thereof.

[LxTrix]

I wanted to go to it just for fun. It was at the same time as the screening of The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya. So actually since it was right next to it i was trying to steal people from the line to come watch and some did. ^_^

[toadstoolssecretluvchild]

LxTrix is Evil nah j/k

[Nogardous]

I forgot about it i was enjoying Karaoke that night with some friends. I wish i would of remembered. Lets face it unless there friends i suck at talking to girls. No self-esteem in that department.

[DFragmentor]

Yeah I know what you are talking about. Never think about trying to "pick up" the girl. Just talk to her like you have no interest in here. That way you are not nervous and aren't thinking about what she is thinking about you. Know what I mean? The less attention you give to a girl (mostly not all) the more the will want your attention. Women love attention. Women will deny it, but thats what my experience has shown me. And I am old, so all you teenagers can just sit back and keep quiet cause you just don't know.

[HeavenlyDevilGurl]

Yeah I know what you are talking about. Never think about trying to "pick up" the girl. Just talk to her like you have no interest in here. That way you are not nervous and aren't thinking about what she is thinking about you. Know what I mean? The less attention you give to a girl (mostly not all) the more the will want your attention. Women love attention. Women will deny it, but thats what my experience has shown me. And I am old, so all you teenagers can just sit back and keep quiet cause you just don't know.

How about just talking to the girl as if to be friends? If you show no interest in a girl, what's the point in even talking to them?

...maybe I'm misunderstanding... but you are basically giving advice as to how act like a player.

[toadstoolssecretluvchild]

I forgot about it i was enjoying Karaoke that night with some friends. I wish i would of remembered. Lets face it unless there friends i suck at talking to girls. No self-esteem in that department.

Gotta easy fix for your porb a/o situation. Just remember how these girls you know now became friends and apply it to other girls. It just makes sense that way. The girls you know now are your friends and there no pressure cause you got to know them as friends first. So when you talk other girls how do you think its gonna differ. 

[Ifria]

Yeah I know what you are talking about. Never think about trying to "pick up" the girl. Just talk to her like you have no interest in here. That way you are not nervous and aren't thinking about what she is thinking about you. Know what I mean? The less attention you give to a girl (mostly not all) the more the will want your attention. Women love attention. Women will deny it, but thats what my experience has shown me. And I am old, so all you teenagers can just sit back and keep quiet cause you just don't know.

Unless you're a woman, you really shouldn't try to speak as one, because you may be giving out some bad advice. :/

[Motoko]

Yeah I know what you are talking about. Never think about trying to "pick up" the girl. Just talk to her like you have no interest in here. That way you are not nervous and aren't thinking about what she is thinking about you. Know what I mean? The less attention you give to a girl (mostly not all) the more the will want your attention. Women love attention. Women will deny it, but thats what my experience has shown me. And I am old, so all you teenagers can just sit back and keep quiet cause you just don't know.

from another older than teenager person,  if a guy I like starts losing interest, or even acts like it, or acts like he "just wants to be friends," then I will remove him from the possibility pool  and move the hell on. I can see the value of being confident and not acting desperate to get into my pants, but I don't have time, at my age, for attention games.

[Nogardous]

Most of the girls that are my friends either my friends where dating them or we where in the same group of friends. But right now the biggest problem is i have now clue how to break the into a converation. I was told just introduce your self, or start with a joke. Me, I just try to use something that they are doing as common ground.

[DFragmentor]

Of course it depends on what you want. If you want to be friends then just be yourself. If you want to date, dont think it as trying to pick her up and stay calm. But if you want to get laid, well there are many other things to do and not do. But thats not what I am talking about here. If you are trying to talk to a girl with the intent of getting together, you may fail cause you are nervous. So dont think of it like that. Just see where it goes.

[DFragmentor]

Unless you're a woman, you really shouldn't try to speak as one, because you may be giving out some bad advice. :/

I am not trying to speak as a girl. I am speaking as a man with experience in talking to women/dating women. Something most women haven't done.

[DFragmentor]

Well I can see that the women missed it completely. Typical. You just think to your self about not trying to date. That way you are not nervous. You talk to her, get to know her, and ask her out. If she says no, move on.

[Motoko]

Well I can see that the women missed it completely. Typical. You just think to your self about not trying to date. That way you are not nervous. You talk to her, get to know her, and ask her out. If she says no, move on.

yeeaahh.... definitely follow this guy's advice if you want "typical" results.

[Nogardous]

My biggest problem is i do get nervous. Let face it when I was in school i got teased because of my speech impediment by ingorant people who just want to boost there own self-esteem by putting other people down. Because of that I get nervous because Im thinking Im I talking clear enough. Also what the other person is thinking,  Some poeple when the first meet me when i was younger that I handicaped. But get to know me and poeple are suprised at how smart I'm and how i just love to learn thing when i can.

[Motoko]

*hugs* Everyone gets nervous at some point, even those people who try to act like they are cooler than they are. Be yourself, be confident in yourself, and you'll meet good people that way.